Love Across The Miles

June 26, 2012
By: kirsty liddle

So here we are in summer finally! But it won’t be long before the leaves start to fall, and another group of bright eyed and bushy tailed, first years head off to Uni. If you are counting the days, but your sweetheart is dreading the passage of time, then it might be an idea to give the following a little read.Many couples do not survive the transfer to University for one reason or another. I know several friends who promised they would make the effort, but once you arrive at the place you will spend the next three to four years of your life, making friends is the top priority. You may also want to think about opening a book once in a while. However it is not impossible to have a successful relationship despite being miles away from each other.

1 Give each other space- at first.

Starting University can be a daunting feeling and during fresher’s week the last thing you or your honey needs to be worrying about is the other person. Concentrate on having fun, and getting to know the people you live with, and your fellow course mates. A friendly text every couple of days is fine and keep any calls short until the week is over.

A brief mention to those couples where only one of you is heading off to University, I know it is hard but let them find their own way. Wait a few weeks till you plan a visit, keep busy and the days will fly by, let them have the fun of showing you round their new “home” city.

2) Plan time together.

If you miss your partner invite them down for the weekend! Go out with your new friends, or stay in and watch Scrubs with a Bargain Bucket, whatever you both enjoy. Schedule another visit just before they leave so you have that to look forward to. If you have a day or two free and know they have nothing planned surprise them! From experience I KNOW there is nothing better than your sweetie turning up unannounced just because they love you.

3) Go with the flow.

At University there are many things that crop up last minute, if your partner has to cancel on you due to a surprise test, or last minute exam revision, accept it. Don’t make them feel guilty remember their studying is important too. However if “I can’t make it “becomes a regular thing maybe it’s time you two talked.

4) Taming the green eyed monster.

The joy of Facebook, a website where you can stalk – I mean check up on them 24/7. Wait! Someone else has got their arm round your man/girl, ok breathe the chances are its innocent, many a drunken night out has resulted in you leaning on a friend for support. But someone takes a snap and that picture somehow starts to represent something more, remember trust is vital in a LDR.

5) Calling it quits.

Be honest with yourself, you will know in your heart if it is not working, and your partner will too. It can be difficult to schedule the time and for some people there is nothing like being young free and single.If you find yourself having romantic feelings, towards the guy you always sit next to in class you know, the one you have such a laugh with be honest with your current partner. Have the decency and dignity to tell them it is over. Cheating is still cheating whether they are aware or not.

A healthy relationship equals a happy one, love your partner and love yourself.