Girl With A One Track Mind… On That Someone Special

August 31, 2012
By: Charlotte Gorick

Shia LaBeouf is to star the new Lars Von Trier film, featuring REAL sex scenes. I learnt of this reading Yahoo ‘OMG!’, who says of LaBeouf’s long term girlfriend, Karolyn Pho: “However, whether or not it was worth having a very public meltdown over is another matter…”. I think if your boyfriend was sleeping with several other women, which is then filmed and broadcast to the world on 30ft screens (acting or not) is a very good reason to cry. Pretending is one thing, to actually do it is another.

But what really made me mad was Yahoo ‘OMG’ then went on to almost blame Karolyn for her own despair, saying: “But, given that LaBeouf is starring in a Von Trier movie titled ‘Nymphomaniac’ he surely must know what he’s letting himself in for. So, it couldn’t have been that much of a shock for either the actor OR his girlf. Surely?” – am I the only one who thinks LaBeouf could have been more sensitive when choosing to accept the role?

Having said that, LaBeouf may well have consulted Pho beforehand and she may well have said it was fine – perhaps not fully realising what was involved. This got me thinking: how far will a girlfriend go for the man she loves?

In a society where relationships are more open than ever and women are accepted as being as sexually liberated as men ever were, I think sometimes we forget that there are still those who prefer a relationship to be an intimate affair between two people, or worse, we berate them and make them out to be frigid.

I know from personal experience what’s it’s like to be encouraged to sleep with other men by the man, the only man, I love – and I’m ashamed to say, I did. I had fawned over this man for three years beforehand; it was at the very beginning of our relationship when we hadn’t even slept with each other yet and I couldn’t believe my luck that he actually felt the same way about me.

Well, not quite the same way it turned out; whereas I wanted us be a couple who went out and did ordinary things together, he just wanted ‘me to have an experience’. I thought that if I showed him I could be the person he wanted me to be then he would grow to love me as much as I loved him.

I realise now this would never have worked and I hate myself for how weak I was around him: – for the record, at any other time, I’m a strong-headed woman of independence.

At this point, I would usually tell all the women reading this to learn from my mistakes: be strong and don’t think you need to impress a man by doing things you wouldn’t usually do, if he’ worthy of your love then he’ll love you just as you are. Which is true, but I know when the first flushes of love set in, the heart takes over and the mind is paralysed, so that’s never going to happen – not even with me.

Instead I’d simply like to leave you with a quote from George Jean Nathan: “A man reserves his true and deepest love, not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.”

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